Comments for The Blog of RichBrand

Comment on The trinity to a good man’s heart by portia

portia — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 20:35:48 +0000

how did i miss this one? good job

Comment on Threshold of Forgiveness by streetz

streetz — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 01:22:26 +0000

I have ths struggle daily. I can forgive but ill never forget. Furthermore, I dont have to remain cordial with you if you betrayed my trust. I can afford the general forgiveness and choose to cut you out my life. Friendship is a privilege, not a right.

Good blog Rich

Comment on Threshold of Forgiveness by Succinct

Succinct — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 16:58:18 +0000

Forgivenesss is letting go of the anger and resentment that you feel. Forgiveness does not equal forgetting. You have to use your experience to be smarter in dealing with people who want to worm their way back into your life. You simply don’t let that happen. It doesn’t mean you didn’t forgive them, you simply won’t be the victim or fool twice.

Comment on Threshold of Forgiveness by Chakana

Chakana — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 16:38:45 +0000

Damn cousin! U posted this @ the right time. I’m struggling with this same thing as we speak. This really helps.

Comment on Sorry, but you’re still the same to me (or are you?) by Deanna Wallace

Deanna Wallace — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 00:49:24 +0000

I totally argee if you were a jerk or bully to me in high school…and if I go home today that same dude will be trying to holla at me but all i have are bad memories of you being an asshole so I truly wouldn’t give him the time of day. I guess the saying is true that first impressions are lasting impressions…. Now the whole baddest chick scenario reigns true with females as well…the guy might be the finest guy ever, but truthful he isn’t the best guy for the female…but she stays with him because #1 She doesn’t think somebody this fine will ever come along for her again. #2 If she leaves him then who is she going to marry he to stop that internal calendar clock thing some females have that says “You have to be married and have kids by this age”. Thanks for the blog it really has me thinking….i’ll try to be my open when i go home for Christmas if i see jerks, bullies, and bad ex-boyfriends

Comment on Sorry, but you’re still the same to me (or are you?) by Danielle

Danielle — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 17:32:42 +0000

AMEN AMEN AMEN! This is all very true and the bible teaches us that we are to forgive and not hold grudges against people. If someone has wronged us, we have to forgive them and let it go. We don’t have to forget but we don’t harbor the aggression anymore. It seems that the people who hold things against us that happened 90 years ago are the same people that are still stuck in the same place, dealing with the same drama and nonsense from 1999. Excellent point Rich. Kudos.

Comment on Sorry, but you’re still the same to me (or are you?) by Vanessa

Vanessa — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 01:14:39 +0000

“There comes a time when we have to update our perceptions of ourselves and of other people, otherwise our personal growth is stunted.” I couldn’t agree with you more. Great post!

Comment on Sorry, but you’re still the same to me (or are you?) by streetz

streetz — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 18:09:28 +0000

CHUUUCH!

I spoke on dudes who felt like they couldnt do better, so they let women walk all over them. Sucks. people need more understandign and self confidence in 09!

Welcome back son son!

Comment on Aesthetic and Apathetic by James White

James White — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 13:48:14 +0000

Very well written and thought out. And it definitely hit home for me because of the time it took for me to get married and the attitude that I once had pertaining to woman and dating.

Comment on RichBrand’s response to M (re: Leverage Factor) by AB

AB — Sun, 16 Aug 2009 00:40:56 +0000

Rich,

Where were you meeting these women…lol! As an Af-Am women from a predominately black city, graduate of an HBCU, and member of a sorority…I can say with confidence that the women you describe, while they do exist, are certainly not in the majority.

I saw that VH1 show…Honestly, I think Jacklyn was young & confused. Simple fact her ex was familiar. I don’t think it’s a case of leverage at all. She liked Brock, but the “familiar” ex came w/ the proposal…something she always “thought” she wanted…she jumped the Brock ship.

Was this smart? No. Was it human? Yes. If she ever went back to Brock, in sincerity, he could forgive her. If not oh well…he’s not for her anyway.

I’ve been to about 10 weddings in the past 3 years (it’s just that season of life right now for my age range).

The truth is for many couples it’s a long road to the alter (particularly if the relationship began early to mid 20s). There can be periods of break ups where someone was dating someone else and then the couple gets back together….and a whole bunch of other stuff. You’d be surprised if you knew every couples’ real story (the couple wedding websites don’t say everything you know…lol!).

The best couples have aaaalll been tested, made mistakes, forgiven, and made it work. If you are meant to be together you’ll find your way back. Whatever needs to be forgiven (read: within reason! Not talking about maury povich drama) can be forgiven.